Anger is often thought of as a dangerous emotion. Sometimes anger just wants to be validated, and then we feel more calm. But sometimes anger is indicating a need.

Therapy spaces talk a lot about emotions. Therapists, therapeutic texts and the work in sessions themselves will often emphasize that getting to know your emotions leads to growth.

The concept of boundaries has received valid criticisms for encouraging a culture of individualism: after all, we don’t exist as islands; we do need each other. Rooting an exploration of our boundaries in the reality of our interconnectedness can bring balance.

Take a moment to consider what the prospect of saying “No” cues within your system. Perhaps some parts feel uneasy about doing so.